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Published on 22-05-2007 In General
Viewed 4736 times | Written by Anita Ratnam
The Immorality of Saying No to Sex Education
With the Global Aids Action Week being observed from May 20, once again the issue of Sex Education is likely to get linked with Aids Prevention. Over the years we have seen Sex Education being debated either in the context of concerns about Population Control or AIDS Prevention.

Does education about sex and sexuality have to be perceived only within the confines of these two arenas? In the wake of the Central Government's attempts to introduce Sex Education from Class VI onwards, the refusal of State Governments of Maharashtra, Karnataka and Madhya Pradesh, Gujarat and Chattisgarh has thrown up other issues.  

It is no accident that these are states with significant Sangh Parivar presence in Government and their refusal stems largely from a perception that sex education will lead to corruption of Indian culture. In the context of their claim to be self proclaimed custodians of this "culture", the recent proclamations by Karnataka Minister Horatti that sex education will be replaced by morality education comes as no surprise.
   

While there is a need to openly and rigorously discuss the age –appropriateness of the modules and illustrations in the proposed curriculum, outright refusal to introduce sex education is disconcerting. Yet decisions like these need to be based on hard (even if unpalatable) facts, instead of hypothetical fears and misconceptions.

Firstly, a misconception that sex education is about biology and the sexual act needs to be clarified. Sex education looks at the total persona- our understanding of our bodies, our notions of intimacy in relationships, respect for each other's autonomy, our evolution as sexual beings, our safety from sexual abuse, the development of a healthy attitude towards ones own sexuality and respect for different sexual orientations.

It is also about reproductive health, the institution of marriage and family and the responsibility towards self and society in the context of procreation as well as pleasure. Most importantly, it is about the gender divide and comprehending the gendered socialisations that pave they way for sexual violence against women, children of both sexes and against transgender communities.  

Therefore reducing sex education to just education about sex, is an erroneous notion. And yes, it is about culture, a culture of dignity, respect, autonomy and responsibility- surely no one can quarrel with that?

Another fear is that sex education will provoke children to become sexually active. The truth, however, is that children too (not just adolescents) are sexual beings. Their explorations of their own bodies and childhood sexual play with friends and siblings has been recognised as normal and not dysfunctional behaviour. In a society where we squirm to openly acknowledge even adult sexuality, Childhood Sexuality has remained a taboo and an enigma.

At the same time, the sexual abuse of children by adults is now recognised as endemic.



The study by Samvada, Bangalore in 1994 and National Study conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child Development, UNICEF and Save the Children in 2007, both note that child sexual abuse in India begins as early as age five, increases dramatically during pre-pubescence and peaks at 12 to 16 years. A huge 21 percent of respondents reported severe sexual abuse like rape, sodomy, fondling or exposure to pornographic material and 53% acknowledged other forms of sexual abuse with over 50% of the abusers being known and trusted adults.

Most of those abused emphasize that they did not understand what was being done to them. A misplaced trust in "family" or respected elders and the abusers' confidence that the child will not be able to comprehend or disclose the abuse, have set the stage for such abuse and trauma. By not providing sex education that is age appropriate and sensitive to social structures, governments are compromising the safety and mental health of our precious children.

With 50% of girls in India married before the age of 18 and 40% before the age of 16, it is ironic that adolescent girls are considered ready for marriage, but not for sex education!

Among the economically better off where marriage age is increasing, not only are adolescents vulnerable to sexual abuse, their own sexual experimentation is more covert, loaded with shame and (mis)guided only by pornographic material devoid of emotional and psycho-social contexts of sexuality. Would it not make more sense to help them talk openly about their anxieties and desires?

While AIDs prevention might have led to a wake up call on sex education, the need for sex education goes far beyond the contours of the AIDS problem. The retrograde reaction from Hindutva bastions in the name of morality is therefore both dangerous and distressing.

Why is there such a fear of acknowledging sexuality and the problems listed above? Historically, Hindutva ideologues and other conservatives have constructed the Indian cultural nation with the Hindu woman as emanating piety, chastity, devoted wifehood and motherhood and the Hindu man as chaste and virtuous. As a response to colonial attempts to codify and change personal laws and practices that violated human rights, revivalists pressed for a subordination of domestic issues in the interests of "nation" formation.

The revival of brahmanic patriarchy and control over men and women's sexuality became central to establishing a national identity. Any domestic issues were blithely obfuscated as culture and problems of women attributed to rapacious, invader Muslims and thus externalised.

Today, attempts by our own government to address real problems caused by sexual ignorance are once again seen by these ideologues as "western" invasion that threatens our cultural identity and morality. Are we willing to place honour of an imagined community before basic human rights, desires and safety of our children and youth? Is this morality? 
 
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Dear Anita,

First I am not from Hindutva or so-called anti-muslim brigade. I may belong to Brahminical patriarchy, but my views and writings do not subscribe to same.

Much of the problems that u are mentioning today is not due to lack of sex education, but due to irresponsible sex education patronized by media and media-pundits (who are not real experts on anything, but just pose themselves as pundits) who thrive on media.

To some extent it is also due to lack of ‘logical’ education to kids.

Morals and Culture come into society, as a set of value systems, solely for the sake of fostering the societal development and not to hamper it. As times change, environment changes and if the value systems do not change, they become a ‘blocker’ to societal development. Always the adaptation to newer environments is difficult, but will catch up. This is a very natural cycle. So there is nothing really to crib about our value systems. It is because of them, we live as organized human beings.

In this case, what is the purpose of sex education u r talking about..?

Is it to protect people against sexual abuse..?
Is it to promote free sex, pre-marital sex, homo-sexuality etc..?

We need to answer this clearly.

A family is the basic unit of society. A family consists at the core of a man and a woman bound together by love, compromises, bonding with kids and relatives and a whole of positives and negatives.

Sex is an element that contributes to increase the bonding at the core of family between man and woman. If Sex prospers, bonding prospers, family prospers, society prospers. Hence the need for moral systems that promote sex only between man and wife and not with anyone.

While sex is simply an urge, family is an institution. Hence the need to institutionalize sex in terms of marriage.

Family, Sex, Society all that comes into picture to foster human evolution in a healthy direction. Hence the need to oppose homo-sexuality and promote normal sexuality.

Yes. There are some unfortunate amongst us, who would have their own sexual preferences that are not in alignment with societal mainstream. But this cannot be taken up as a point to make them the societal mainstream. Let them live their life in own way. Let us not publicize them and promote them.

Often terminology such as “bringing them into mainstream”, “should not hush under the carpet” are used to advocate the prominence given to different sexual preferences.

Actually the media is simply promoting alternate sexual preferences or free-sex by justifying them and egging on people to openly adopt such preferences. The reason for it is to make money in the stiff media competition.

I have met so many people who have been led astray by media and media pundits, who talk about sex, sexual openness and justifying homo-sexuality and pre-marital sex. These people have been the victims of irresponsible sex education carried out by media and its pundits and left alone with so many diseases and spoiled lives.

So sex education is needed for kids to be beware of sexual abuse. And not promote open-sex, pre-marital sex or homo-sex. There is nothing like discovering sex with your wife.

Free sex is like sugar. Easily dissolves, but a sour taste is left behind. Sex within marriage is like Jackfruit. Difficult to reach and take a bite. But the taste of it lingers forever!

-TBT

 
thebigthinkg - Comments as on 23-05-2007

1.It is a wrong notion that because of lack of sex education, sexual abuse etc. is happening.
2. Fine…If sexual education given, everything become alright. If so, why western countries has a high precentile in sexual abuse etc.?. Not only that they also extraplotted to the same gender sex etc.
3. Dont always look some borrowed ideas.
4.The arqument is that, in india, sexual abuse etc. is this % and that %. Okay…what we are doing for this: putting condom machine in university, praizing publish kiss to show that AIDS prevention. Amazing ideas…….
5.Mam, come out of these borrowed thoughts. In our culture, sex is not either deried nor glorified. Its accepted as a fact of life. But western people did glorified also.
6. Before proceeding any issues, we should first understand the psyche of particular society. Otherwise,it will end with unhappy manner only.

 
vvvv - Comments as on 23-05-2007

here’s a typical British Primary School Curriculam
on SEX EDUCATION:
Reception to Year 2
Sex education is not dealt with as a specific topic, but should questions arise, they are honestly answered at the right level of the child’s understanding, and without emotional overtones.

Year Three 7-8 year olds: Project Work - Myself
This is basic work about the body especially linked to the senses. There is no formal sex education attempted with this age group. We talk about mammals and their characteristics, linking them to humans.

Year Four 8-9 year olds: Project Work
The year four classes visit the Ninfield Nature Trail Centre on three occasions, Autumn, Spring and Summer. During the Spring and Summer visits especially, many questions are asked about reproduction in plants and animals, e.g. lambs, frogs and insects.

Year Five 9-10 year olds: Television Programme “Good Health”
This forms the basis of discussion throughout the year. The programme is shown fortnightly and ‘Human Reproduction’ is covered during the Spring Term.

Year Six 10-11 year olds: Television Programmes
Following a letter to parents the children watch three BBC “Sex Education” programmes; Needs of Babies, Development to Maturity and Conception and Birth. These three programmes all come within the context of caring family relationships. From these programmes the class teacher leads class discussion.

Will help in achieving all the GLORIES, the author believes Sex Education will ?

 
raman - Comments as on 25-05-2007

ERRATA:
Pl. read the last line of my comments as:
Will the above Curriculam help in achieving all the GLORIES, the author believes Sex Education will ?

 
raman - Comments as on 25-05-2007

What does the author mean by :
In a society where we squirm to openly acknowledge even adult sexuality, Childhood Sexuality has remained a taboo and an enigma.

REMOVE THE TABOO AND ENIGMA OF CHILDHOOD SEXUALITY AND MAKE IT FREE FOR ALL ?

 
raman - Comments as on 25-05-2007

I just came across a ‘joke’ on the internet:
A little girl after her first days in school, comes rushing to her Mom.”Mama, Mama, where have we come from ?”
The mother thought, “Oh, My God, the inevitable question !Only it has come too early. Anyway I will have to tell her some time or other - earlier the better.
Then she started telling about flowers, the bees and birds, animals, then the whole thing.
After the 20 and odd minutes lecture she asked ” Why did you ask the question,?”
The little girl with a worried look, said ” Because the girl sitting next to me said she has come from Liverpool!!!

 
raman - Comments as on 26-05-2007

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